To be parents may be the most important, most difficult profession, especially in China. All parents hope that the children will be successful, but few parents really understand the family education scientifically. As for a previously healthy and lovely child, if cultivation mode is wrong, it will cause psychology of child to be unhealthy, which are both cruel?

First of all, the parents weight substance but light spirit to the children. As for the parents in the 1980s, their childhoods in material also often are not satisfactory. Their childhood, feel the greatest happiness is occasionally to get a sugar or have a doll. When they have children later, they feel to love child is to give him something good, and they would buy anything what the child want.

Secondly, the parents weight IQ light EQ to children. Most parents, people who especially have experienced diploma hot think generally, to study well may have a good future. Little imagine, today's society has undergone earth-shaking changes. IQ only account for 30% proportion of success factors. Only high EQ talents are likely to go more smoothly.

Recently, a pair of parents to send their children to the UK to study abroad, but the child even wasn't out to London airport, only stayed for 48 hours, and bought full price of return ticket to go back.
The reason was very simple, scheduled pickup company was late because car has broken down, he didn't know what to do. The child who stayed for 48 hours is the typical of weighting IQ lightening EQ in the child education. In addition to good study, the more important is to let the children learn to identify and control their emotions, wisely communicate with people, and well adapt to the society.

Finally, the parents to children heavy back-school but lighten preschool. Most people think that as children grow up, they most need parents. In Fact, on the contrary, the child to a parent's need degree will abate as the growth of the age. Children most need their parents to take care of themselves at Neonatal, infant school-age prophase. Therefore, if parents let others to take care of children, it will suddenly produce sharp separation anxiety, which will make children be sensitive, withdrawn, and appear even psychological resist, even appear communication obstacles.

Therefore, parents should be determined to take care of their children themselves. Even if they please old man to help, don't give up the responsibility of taking care of the children themselves.